The Victim

You play the victim when all along, you've been the one committing the crimes. You act like you're being denied your children when you haven't even volunteered to stop by on your way home to see them. So you're working extra hours? Who said that if you wanted to see your kids that you couldn't stop by to give them hugs and kisses. You want them to learn about God so much? Why haven't you taken them to church? You think that your partner leaving is her fault and that she's tearing apart the family? What did YOU do to cause her to feel that she needs to leave and have lost the love for you that she once had? Have you thought that they were so done with the "old you" that they don't even want the "new you" because you made your changes a little too late? Why fight with them? Make the best of it for the kids. Don't cause so much stress between the two of you when it's only going to reflect on the children.

Gone

You never know what you have until it's gone. When you fail to show love for so many years, it's a little late once they leave. It's a little too late to commit to a marriage when it's over. Follow the grieving process, and move on with your life. It may seem impossible, but life does and will go on. Make the best of your situation. This isn't the early 19th century where divorces were unheard of. They are quite common. A person is no longer "stuck" in an unhappy marriage. Appreciation should be shown to your significant other whenever you can. Show them their love. Take a minute to sit back and realize how great they are. If you don't, you will find yourself realizing how great they are when it's too late and they are already with the one who knew all along how great they were.

Sexy and Attractive

This is out of the blue, but I'm an avid reader of Cosmo and honestly, when it comes to what they say is "sexy" in a man, I can't help but laugh. I mean, yeah, great biceps, a six pack, great ass are all nice to look at, BUT there is something that I think tops ANYTHING physical about a man. What that is, is a man who is a GREAT father. Now, I'm not saying that my man isn't attractive. There are many things that I love about him, from his looks all the way to his personality. What really makes me look at him like there is no other man on Earth? The way he is with his daughter and other children! Now, a man doesn't have to have children for you to see the "Great Father Factor". Look at how he interacts with the younger generations of his or your family. To me, there is nothing more attractive than seeing my man play with, interact with and correct/guide his daughter and our nieces and nephews. I know this is pretty short, but I just had to put this out there.

Infidelity

What is infidelity? According to Webster, it is the "quality of being unfaithful". My question is, why do people resort to cheating? All it does is create a larger tension and pain for both parties. If you feel like you have to cheat, then don't be in a committed relationship. And if you're already in one, be honest with the other party that you no longer have feelings for them. It will hurt much less than them finding out later on that you were with another (other) girl(s). Also, in the act of being unfaithful, do yourself a favor and try not to procreate. When you already have children with other women that you don't fully take care of, why are you going to create more?!

What Is A Whore?

Now, what exactly is it that makes someone a whore? Everyone has their differing views. Some view me as a whore because I have a sexual relationship with my boyfriend when I am not yet legally divorced. I don't see this as wrong. Is a whore just someone having multiple partners? Is it someone having multiple partners without protecting themselves? Is it someone that isn't married, but having a sexual relationship? Is sex even really something that is only to be done within the sanctity of a legal marriage?
Here are my views. You are classified as a "whore" to me when you have multiple sexual relations (especially with those that you do not know well or are random encounters) and you fail to protect yourself from pregnancy and STD. Meeting with random people that you don't even know, just to have sex is not a safe and healthy decision. I don't care if you can't have children. People who have had their tubes tied in the past have ended up with those "miracle babies". Not to mention that there is more than pregnancy to be concerned with. Not all STD's are treatable with a round of antibiotics. Some are permanent. There is no cure for AIDS. Some cause cancer. There are varying forms of HPV and no way to tell which men are carriers. If the ones that are treatable are left alone for too long, they can cause PID. 
Do I believe that sex should only be done within the sanctity of a marriage. No. To me, sex is something natural. BUT, if I'm not with one monogamous partner, I make sure that not only am I on birth control, but I'm also using a barrier protection as well. I also make sure that I have regular PAP and STD tests. Now, don't take this wrong. I'm not saying that I have many partners, but in the past, I did. But I always took action to protect myself. 
So, in short, to me: A whore is someone who has multiple partners within a short period of time that does not use protection. Especially when these sexual partners are people that you meet from the internet for just the purpose of having sex. You don't know these people. You don't know their sexual history. You don't know their mental history. You are putting yourself in a bad situation all the way around. Here is something to think on, especially if you aren't protecting yourself from pregnancy: "Is this someone that I want to have a child with" and "How will I feel about myself if I become pregnant and can't identify who the child's father is". 

The Rose

" A relationship is like a rose. How long it lasts, no one knows. Love can erase an awful past, love can be yours, you'll see at last. To feel that love, it makes you sigh. To have it leave, you'd rather die. You hope you've found that special rose, cause you love and care for the one you choose. "-Cella
I randomly found this online and LOVED it. Love really can erase an awful past. With my Love, I forget the problems and abuse that I endured. I forget what it's like to feel a broken heart. To find that I can love freely is a wonderful feeling. It's something that I never want to lose. My Love really is my "special rose".
He shows me this everyday. He never has to point out what he does in love. He works himself ragged with two jobs, so I don't have to work as hard. He still helps me out with housework so that it's not entirely my burden to bear. He shows it in his hugs and kisses. He shows it when he comes up and wraps his arms around me while I'm doing the dishes and tells me how beautiful I am. It shows in the mornings when my hair is a mess and my breath is horrible, but he still kisses me and says "good morning beautiful".
I never thought that I would find such happiness as what I have now. I don't believe that I initially married the wrong person. I don't think that it's horrible that after only two years of marriage, I'm going through a divorce. It happened to get me on the path that I'm on now. Everything happens for a reason. Without being married and my soon to be ex-husband being a gamer, then I most likely would have never gotten to know my Love.

In Denial

As someone going through a divorce, I can honestly say, breaking up your family and finding that the love you once had is gone really, really f*cking sucks! BUT, the best thing to do is accept it, cope and move on. Don't live in denial that it's happening. It's just going to hurt worse than you could imagine. I've let go, coped and moved on. Hurtful things were done and said, but it's over.
Why hold on when I know that they're in love with and being with someone else? It hurts to let go, but it's for the best. If you love someone enough, then you want them to be happy, even if it's not with you. Things won't be "worked out" when they've been in ruin for so long. Don't hold on to a "till death do us part vow" and create a hostile environment for your children. It's not going to work if only one person is working on the relationship and when one person puts forth all the effort for years then gives up I don't blame them. What the inactive party needs to realize is, yes, after all these years, it is too late to start putting in that effort. The effort should have been done mutually instead of someone realizing, "Oh sh*t, now they want a divorce. Guess I better try to fix this".